I can’t believe I’m writing a blog post on family planning! For as long as I can remember, I have wrestled with the idea of having children. I’ve never felt that urge or tug on my heart to become a mother until after we got married. And when all of our friends started having children, something changed for me.
One minute, I’m making a list of all the things I love about being married and not having children, and the next minute, I’m having a full fledged breakdown (ugly tears included) because a friend sends me a cute video of her toddler playing in the yard.
Never before in history have women had such control over the decision to prevent pregnancy. This is a completely new choice we are facing. And while we navigate the landscape of making that choice, there are also so many other beautiful stories of motherhood. I strive to share the deepest darkest parts of my heart here, but I know that my story is only one perspective. That’s why I wanted to bring in other amazing, strong women with stories to tell and experiences to share.
It’s absolutely beautiful, which is why I think it creates this huge hole in my heart. This massive fear of missing out. I’ve never felt so distant and disconnected with others in a similar life stage.
I can’t relate to this. My heart does not long to be a mother. Never once have I thought to myself, “I want to be a mother.” Never. Period. That thought has never crossed my mind. Don’t get me wrong, I have hypothetically said “our kids” in conversations with my husband, but that longing feeling of wanting a child has never been in my heart.
It’s really easy to get stuck in a rut and spend your date nights at the same restaurant over and over! I’m speaking from experience here. Doing new experiences together can bring a fresh and fun dynamic to your relationship.
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I’m a newlywed living in Indianapolis, Indiana with my hubby, baby girl Ryan and two pups, Porter and Piper. I wear a lot of hats, like blogger, wedding planner, wife and mama. I believe everyone has the power to create a home, life & business that they LOVE.